Assalamualaikum warrahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
words. words can be simply amazing and it also can ruin someone's life. that's why people say think twice before you speak because a word effects people so much. it effects your heart. some people they don't like when people directly advise them. but some people they love it. it's fitrah.
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i don't know, people nowadays tend to be so pious and maybe arrogant (?) they wanted to look good in front of others and they advise people in public. yes, actually advising people in public is so not good attitude. you just open their aib in front of many people. it's okay if you use proper words but what if you did not use proper words?
to give advise to people, you also need skills. you can't think advise or da'uwah people are an easy thing. you can't take everything that you make lightly. you need to master the art of psychology. this is because there are many type of humans. it's better to talk or advise them privately. talk to them heart-to-heart.
yes, sometimes i make mistakes. i advise people in public. why not, starts from now, ask them first, what situation are they prefer. are they an open-minded people or vice versa. we need to know them first, then we can move on.
but some people they just cannot accept they way we advise them, and they started to yell at us.
be sabr. be sabr.
Indeed Allah loves people who are sabr.
don't explode our anger in front of them. know that the way we advise them is wrong. it's a lesson. just smile. we're not perfect. try one-by-one.
if we do a good thing, insyaAllah Allah will help us through the journey.
